Fun Facts about 5 Love Languages for Valentine’s Day!

Have you heard about the ‘5 Love Languages’? It is an insightful concept introduced by Dr Gary Chapman, an experienced marriage counsellor. According to him, we all love in different ways and relationships can be improved by understanding love languages of you and your spouse.

Have you and your partner ever felt a distance despite both of you have tried to give? One of the possible reasons is that perhaps we may have overlooked the love given by our partner just because they are expressing their love differently.

The five love languages are:

  1. Words of affirmation
  2. Quality time
  3. Receiving gifts
  4. Acts of service
  5. Physical touch

Now that it is near Valentine’s Day, we have compiled some fun facts about 5 love languages for you!

WORDS OF AFFIRMATION

  • Besides giving words of encouragement, make jokes too. A strong sense of humour is interpreted as being intelligent and honest.  That’s why most women are attracted to men who possess a strong sense of humour.
  • Giving verbal compliments is a much better way to motivate than nagging– More of reminder!

QUALITY TIME

  • When you spend quality time with your loved ones, talk and communicate more. According to an experiment, when two strangers are able to sustain a conversation and maintain eye contact for a while, it can make them fall in love.
  • Fun fact! When two lovers stare into each other’s eyes, their heartbeats will synchronise after about 3 minutes.

RECEIVING GIFTS

  • If you are looking for a non-mainstream type of flower for Valentine’s Day, avoid yellow hyacinths – they symbolise jealousy.
  • The Celts believed that an apple is a symbol of love because it lasts long after being picked. So do consider giving an apple for your Valentine’s Day too – it is both healthy and lovely!
  • Our baking course can spoil your partner with 8 cakes at one go 😉

ACTS OF SERVICE

  • Helping your partner to wash the toilet can be a love language too!
  • Different people have different “dialects” for acts of service – perhaps they prefer you washing dishes more than cooking a meal!

PHYSICAL TOUCH

  • Cuddling gives the same nerve reaction as taking painkillers.
  • Men who kiss their wives in the morning are said to live five years longer than men who don’t.

Loving is not just about giving, it is also about giving in the right way too! We hope this information brings you and your partner a new angle to evaluate your relationship and bring it to greater heights! Happy Valentine’s Day!

Leadership starts with us

If we want to maximise our life, leadership is unavoidable subject.  Many people equate leadership to having a prestigious CEO or director title, but it is not. I agree with leadership guru Robin Sharma in what differentiates leaders from mediocrity are their character traits and mindsets.

Whether we are in leadership positions, leadership starts with being able to lead ourselves. If we can’t lead ourselves, how do we lead our people to achieve our goals? How do we naturally inspire people around us then?

What is self-leadership, then?

Personally, I think it is largely linked to personal mastery. People with great self-leadership develop high self-awareness and take personal responsibilities on everything that happens in their lives. When issues arise, they will take the initiatives to solve the problems. When things don’t go their way, they will take actions to solve the problems instead of victimising themselves (‘Why me?’). Having self-awareness is thus important to identify what is the key factor to moving forward.

If we don’t like what we do now, change. Explore and connect with coaches to assess your core values and capabilities, and upgrade your skillset.

If we feel that our relationships get strained, communicate. Or approach professionals for advice.

If we feel that we are not earning enough, we can seek what is missing, or even find a side hustle. We should also wonder how can we add more value to others. Should we re-look at how we are communicating our values across?

If tragic events happen, it is fine to take time to feel sad. However, we should seek comfort in knowing that there are many supports available around us.

When we are able to lead ourselves and set the right examples, we can naturally inspire people around us to act in the same way. Ultimately, the organisation will have a strong culture by having like-minded people with the right values.

If one prefers to be an individual contributor, he/she can still be a leader by living with the right traits. Remember, leadership is not about title or position. Leadership is a mindset.

Take ownership and start leading yourself!

New Year Resolution 2020

Setting goals and resolutions for a new year may feel cliche to you but it is really one good way to help you achieve your dreams. With this, we have come up with two Instagrammable templates to make it easier.

What you can do is:

  1. Download the templates below
  2. Post on Instagram’s Instastory and tick or comment accordingly

Alternatively, we have put them as Instastory highlights that you can reuse too.

Wishing you a fulfilling 2020!

Embracing 2020 as a Start of ‘Lifelong Learning’: Here’s Why!

Hello, everyone!

Christmas decorations and jingles have popped up around every corner. As cliché as it might sound, some of us might have started to think about our progress this year, together with resolutions and goals for 2020. So have I.

Just two weeks ago, I took up the offer to challenge myself to enhance this website – a personal achievement for me considering zero IT background. I have delayed my intention to learn how to build a website for almost a year, for the limiting belief “this is too technical for me, I am not an IT person”. However, this desire kept coming back and I decided to challenge my self-doubt, knowing that digital marketing is a great skill to have and I can design my own website in future. And guess what? Now I am taking a website project for new brands too!

Was collating all the heartwarming testimonials from participants. This looks perfect!

Same goes to you, do you have any self-limiting beliefs, especially around lifelong learning? Some of the most common limiting beliefs that I notice hindering people from learning are:

“I have studied enough at my uni/poly.”

“I have no money lah.”

“Shouldn’t my company send me for training?”

If your company is supportive, they will send you for training, especially if it helps your job. However, I do believe that we should take the personal responsibility to upskill ourselves even without company support. I personally read a lot and learned that all successful figures dedicate and invest a portion of their income into continuous learning.

What’s the benefit, then? Learning a new concept can mean installing a new file to your brain – you learn something you totally didn’t know earlier. It’s a new toolbox to broaden our perspectives and make wiser decisions. We can also just learn for the purpose of picking up new hobby, which still help to ignite creativity and new ideas in our actual job or business (read: innovation!). All these help to add values to your customers, which is the basis of increasing your earning probability. Remember, no one owes us any extra pay raise, we earn extra only when we have shown that we have DELIVERED extra values.

If you are a housewife, why should you bother? I would quote famous statement from Indonesian artist Dian Sastro, “A smart mother will raise smart kids.” Wouldn’t you want to raise smart kids or if not, support your hubby excelling? Whatever state you are in right now, there is a compelling reason to train your learning muscle. To stay where you are right now is a waste of your hidden potential. Dream big, adopt a growth mindset – you can learn any skill you want to as long as you want to dedicate time and effort. Warren Buffett once said, “The best investment you can make is in yourself.” My sentiments exactly.

Cheers to Learning Year 2020,

Exena